Friday, October 30, 2015

All Things Boyfriend

Todays Dia Style Challenge is All Things Boyfriend. Thankfully I'd invested in some boyfriend jeans when they first came around so I threw them on for the 2nd time in their lives and made 'em werk!

These distressed boyfriend jeans aren't my favorite fit because with as short as I am its tough getting any shape out of my outfit...except for Club Cracker (stubby rectangle). So I opted for a fitted top which is my favorite marble pattern. With my sticks in the background do I look like a woodsy counter top? Please say yes. 

Jeans (size 26) and shoes are Torrid; Top is Lane Bryant (size 24) and the scarf was a Christmas present last year. 

Monday, October 26, 2015

Lovin' Layers

Saturday was Lovin' Layers in my style challenge, it also happened to be a day we were supposed to go to a lash party and get our lashes done. Well, I left my house 45 min before I had to be where I was supposed to be (usually a 35 min drive) and hit traffic about 1/3 of the way in... where I sat for 3 hours. Needless to say, we missed our appointments and I needed a drink by the time I got to where I was going. A man had positioned himself on the pedestrian bridge and intended to end his life so they had to shut down the highway. Depression and suicide are incredibly serious issues and as someone who has struggled with them, I do have to say- please, before you shut entire highways down, think of the lashes!

Friday, October 23, 2015

Trendy Under Twenty: Costume Edition

Not even going to pretend like today's post isnt completely cheesy- because it is and I love it! Halloween is coming and I dont think I'm going to have a chance to dress up this year so I have to live vicariously through you. It was time for a Trendy Under $20 post and I thought- why not make it themed?! So I started and realized that super cheap costumes are all fairly cheesy and then embraced it and went full cheese. Youre welcome. Youre also welcome to stop taking me seriously as a blogger now because this is almost disgraceful.

You still have time to get this stuff shipped if you find something you happen to like. I definitely want to see your costumes this year though. Send them to me on Facebook and Twitter!

Vest | Angel Set | Striped Thigh-High | Steampunk Goggles | Tie Dye Tee | Lab Coat | Clown Kit

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

Bringing Booties Back

Lets all just ignore the hair stuck to my face. Especially now that I've drawn attention to it. Anyway... so I'm still doing the Dia Style Challenge (Why must October have 31 days!?) and it is really starting to become a challenge to make all these things happen with my one wardrobe. Also- I have so much black! I feel like I might need some color but then I think about how black makes me feel powerful and all the colors seem to not matter anymore.

The booties were fun, it was nice to grab these out of the closet for a change. They are a bit high, so I dont wear them to work and when I'm not at work I never feel like wearing heels so they just sit there and I gaze lovingly upon them. They were a clearance find a few years ago so I dont have a link for you, but similar booties would be easy to find.

The pants and top made a makeshift jumpsuit- which I love. Pants are joggers from Asos and the top was also from Asos. I dont love the top. I like the sheer but the sleeves are a bit tight in my upper arm and it has a banded bottom which is the nemesis of a big butt. I cant tell how I feel about the open front. I like it but it makes it hard to pair unless layered and that takes all the fun out of the sheer so I put on a nude bra and went for it.

Now... on that note. My cousin sent me something she saw online called The Bra Lab. They dont come in extended sizes but the company and I emailed back and forth a little bit and I made it known that the world needs that in plus size. I believe they go up to a 38D now (they emailed me when they added those sizes). Essentially they are pretty bras that dont hook like traditional bras so they are more of a cool enhancement for tops with unique cuts. If youre in that range- definitely check them out!

Monday, October 19, 2015

Dia&Co .Unboxing: October

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Its that time of month again! My Dia box was waiting for me when I got back from vacation and I was super excited. This would have been a 4 out of 5 box had the sizing been right. Problem is that I'm on the top end of plus and a lot of brands I can fit into the largest size 50% of the time, and the other half is a sad, sad failure. Modamix is one of those. I like to still take the chance of getting that brand because when I get something I love- I really love it. 

You will notice in this box that the note I got includes some styling advice but the tags on the individual items are no longer, which is a little sad for me. I can see it being labor intensive, especially as they get beat up in the try on process for different women. Ideally as they work on the website they will have them there. I hear there are some pretty great changes planned for the site. 

Friday, October 16, 2015

Leggings Tips

Leggings. My favorite form of pants. People get so worked up over leggings. Are they pants, are they not pants? Can you wear them alone? Can fat girls wear them at all? My answer to all these things is yes, but just like anything else, you have to do it right for maximum effectiveness. As always, you know that I strongly feel that you should wear what makes you happiest so the tips and tricks I list below are not hard rules but merely what I use as guidelines.

Most importantly- buy good quality leggings. You want leggings that are not even close to tights. The thinner the leggings, the more likely you are going to show your groceries to the world. Spend money on leggings if nothing else. Even the most expensive leggings are still fairly reasonable.  Do the "bend test" before you wear them out. If you can see through them when you bend over even a little, never wear them alone. Torrid does an okay job with leggings. Lane Bryant does better. 

If you're wearing them alone- darker colors work best. The lighter or shinier the leggings, the more they show. Listen, you don't get a booty as big as mine with no cellulite. I feel like that's pretty common sense so often I don't mind too much when it shows but some days I just don't feel like challenging the world's social norms. A light grey legging is perfect under a maxi-tee but worn alone it makes this booty look more like the moon.

Want to wear them as pants but aren't quite comfy with the booty out? Try a waist wrap. Fall is perfect for this look- especially in the transitional period when you need an extra layer in the morning or night. Try a basic grey tee- black leggings and then a plaid shirt tied around your waist for booty coverage.

Once you use them as a layering tool- under a skirt, with a long tunic etc etc, a lot of the "rules" become a moot point. You can get away with a lot more that way. Even tights. *wink*

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Faux Fur Vests

Keeping with the Dia Style Challenge of the day, Wild Wednesday- I wanted to give you some cold weather options- you know, since not everyone is in the tropical setting I am right now. (Also, I'm writing this way in advance- arent you impressed by my planning skills? I'm impressing myself a little here.)

Faux Fur Vests. Either love them or hate them it seems. These are extra trendy. I cant imagine how long they will be in for- so if youre not about to spend $200 on something you'll wear a few times, check out the more budget friendly options. I was out on the culotte trend but I'm here for the faux fur!

There is a trick to these. You need to keep everything else fairly simple to avoid looking like the Rhode Island girl stereotype. This is your statement- don't add boots with the fur to match- that's too much fur. That's rich 80's housewife at the ski lodge. Not what the goal is. Pair it with a simple dress or jumpsuit for something extra easy to get into the faux fur swing of things.

Monday, October 12, 2015

Take a Break

By the time you're reading this, I'll be on a boat in the middle of the ocean somewhere- hopefully not stranded- drinking a lot of flaming martinis and taking naps in my bathing suit. Today though, I'm sitting here writing this while also recovering from a particularly intense weekend. I've never been shy about admitting I was once a pretty extreme party girl- I went pretty hard in my early 20s. I've slowed way down as I've gotten older, but I can still hit a wild streak during times of stress here and there. I'm what I call a party-griever. You know that widow that goes out a week after her husbands death for a boob job, buys a six thousand dollar dress to go dance and drink entirely too much with strangers then has the whole town talking about her for years after? Yeah- that's me.

As I've gotten older I've learned better ways to handle stress that don't include drinking- and I'm sure my liver thanks me- but lately all of life's little (and some very large) stresses have been trying to knock me down. So here I am, bruised and sore from falling... literally (I still maintain that I've tripped over that same step 100 times sober, so it wasn't just because I had been drinking) and with no voice from taking late night drives with the top down screaming just to let it all out. I sound like a disaster, I know- and I kind of am one... but a fully functional adult disaster. I actually contemplated on not sharing it so you would still take me seriously but I fell back on my transparency policy. I cant preach what I don't practice. In a week or so you'll see me on white beaches with blue water but unless I shared with you what got me there- all you'd see was sparkle and I don't want people to only see and compare their lives with my sparkliest bits.

Friday, October 9, 2015

Fat Travel Anxiety: The List

So I'm getting ready to leave today for my trip! We have made it! I mentioned in my past post that I would put together this list along the way of all my fat anxiety items that I ran into while getting ready so here we are. Sorry if it is a little dark right before the weekend, but know that it isn't meant to be dark. I have a feeling all these issues will have happy endings in my post-trip Fat Anxiety Review.

I know some of these are irrational, but like I told you before... my anxiety isn't exactly rational.Does this list make me insecure? Maybe, but one of a human's basic needs is being accepted (thank you college psychology) and if anyone tells you they've never felt a little insecure they probably have a personality disorder. (I'm looking at you Kanye). Confidence and self acceptance are not always your first thoughts, they are the process of correcting those thoughts and overcoming them.

  1. I don't want to go scuba diving because I'm afraid of them not having a suit in my size. 
  2. I'm afraid the rooms will be small and I'll have to squeeze between the bed and the TV center every time.
  3. The balcony of my room is small- will I fit?
  4. Actually... ship doors are pretty small- I know I will fit, but how well?
  5. I'm so glad I dont have to fly- flying is so hard as a fat person. ***
  6. Id love to go to the spa, but will they have a robe that fits?
  7. ...will the masseuse mind my naked fatness?
  8.  Public pools. period.
  9. Am I going to break the pool furniture!? There is nothing scarier than that *creeeeaaakkkk* as you sit down.
  10. Can I find something casual to wear that also looks good? Jeans and a t-shirt is a challenge.
  11. If we do an excursion, will people look at me as if I cant make the hike? 
  12. If we do a tasting excursion, will people think, of course fatty did the food trip!
  13. How am I ever going to find 3 suits that I love that also cover what I want covered? 
Obviously I'm not the only one that has these thoughts before traveling- that picture up there is a post from the message boards where someone is inquiring about weight limits for the water slides. These are the things about being fat that people worry about but rarely talk about (notice it has almost 550 views). Even if nobody else notices, that creak from sitting down in a chair can be terrifying so I want to share my experience mentally beforehand and then the real life experience in action. Keep an eye out for a "result" post about a week after I get back!

***I flew for my NYC trip and I'll tell you about that!

Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Faux Fall

 Day 7 of the Dia Style Challenge is #FauxFall. You know how into faux leather I am so of course thats what I picked! The hardest part about this challenge is getting it all done every day while also not having to change too many times before work. Pairing a leather jacket with something work appropriate was definitely a challenge. I used my Asos Curve jumpsuit and the grid tee also from Asos (both size 24) as a base outfit and then added the jacket to take it from trendy profesh to trendy edgy.

Also, yes- thats Prissy in every picture. Shes this close to me at all times. Im going to have to invest in a leather doggy jacket.

The actual jacket is Modamix in a size 3x. I got it in one of my Dia&Co boxes- July I believe- and I love it! As soon as I pulled it out of the box I was like, well- this is it. This is the best day of my life.
More pictures after the jump>>>>

Monday, October 5, 2015

Trail Blazing

I feel like such a slacker lately! So with this Dia Style Challenge, I havent been doing my usual types of posts as often, so I wanted to see how you were feeling about it. Do you like it better? Do you like it less? It has been a lot of fun but with vacation coming up in 4 days (!!!) and this challenge it has been hard to run a separate blog post along side it. The numbers show that everyone seems to be enjoying it but there isnt anything better than getting real comments from you guys to learn how to grow better.

Friday, October 2, 2015

October Style Challenge

You saw the first post yesterday and maybe you wanted to also be in on the challenge. Youre in luck sir/ma'am! I've got the whole challenge here. I wont be doing every single day, but I'm going to do my best to get quite a few done- even while on vacation- because I love a challenge. I have been habitually checking the #diastylechallenge to see everyone's take on the day's theme.

Today is #collarqueen and I am rocking my double collar to honor the 2007 white boy (aka bro). You remember when they had like 4 polos on just to get all 4 collars popped. That was dedication. Youth is such a confusing time.

Anyway, I want to see what you guys do for the challenge- you dont have to do all of them, but definitely do some! There is surely something out of 31 days that you can work with.

Thursday, October 1, 2015

Bonus Post! #ThinkPink

Today starts Dia&Co's month of style challenges. First day of course being ‪#‎thinkpink‬ to kick off Breast Cancer Awareness. Show what pink you're wearing today with ‪#‎diastylechallenge‬ !

Also we all know I'm not usually a pink girl but stepping outside the comfort zone felt great. I'm always down for a challenge... As most innocent people of my morning commute can attest to.

Keep an eye out on my social media for the calendar of challenges and definitely tag me and hashtag the look if you want to show off your look!

Deets for the look: 
Top | Skirt | Belt
Necklace was through Dia&Co box.